迷恋的最长期限是4个月，超过这个时间，即为真正喜欢对方。

The longest period of infatuation is 4 months, beyond this time, that is to really like each other.

恋爱当中，女生会有一些吐槽，抱怨甚至谩骂，那个时候她们其实是在向亲近的人寻求认同感，并不是在要解决方案。

In love, girls will have some Tucao, make complaints about, even abuse. At that time, they are actually seeking identity from the close ones. They are not trying to solve the problem.

双方吵架的时候，真正引起你愤怒情绪的，可能不是当前发生的事情，而是眼前的小事触发了过去的创伤情结。

When both sides quarrel, what really causes your anger may not be what happened at present, but the small things in front of you trigger the trauma complex in the past.

有人会问，女孩子上那么久的学、读那么多的书，最终不还是要回一座平凡的城，打一份平凡的工，嫁作人妇，洗衣煮饭，相夫教子，何苦折腾？我想，我们的坚持是为了，就算最终跌入繁琐，洗尽铅华，同样的工作，却有不一样的心境，同样的家庭，却有不一样的情调，同样的后代，却有不一样的素养。

Some people will ask, girls go to school for so long, read so many books, and finally have to go back to an ordinary city, take an ordinary job, marry a woman, wash clothes and cook, and teach their husband and children.

Why bother? I think our insistence is to have the same work but different mood, the same family but different sentiment, the same offspring but different accomplishment even if we finally fall into the tedious situation.

人一生会碰见很多心动的人，可能会误以为那是喜欢，其实也只不过是某一刻的好感，毕竟心动都不是答案，心定才是。

People will meet a lot of people who are excited in their life. They may mistakenly think that they like it. In fact, it's just a moment's favor. After all, excitement is not the answer, but determination is.

人生就像一条抛物线，不管你的最高点有多高，最终还是会回到最初的那个起点。

这是人生最大的遗憾，也是最大的公平。

Life is like a parabola, no matter how high your highest point is, it will eventually return to the original starting point.

This is the greatest regret in life, but also the greatest fairness.

一双鞋，刚买的时候蹭上一点灰都要蹲下来擦干净，穿久之后，即使被人踩一脚可能也很少低头。人大抵都是如此，不论对物还是对情。最初，她皱一下眉你都心疼，到后来，她掉眼泪你也不大紧张了。

When you buy a pair of shoes, you have to squat down and wipe them clean when you rub a little dust on them. After wearing them for a long time, you may rarely bow your head even if someone steps on them. It's almost the same with things and feelings. At first, she frowned you are distressed, to later, she shed tears, you are not nervous.

有些事情不是努力就能改变，就像五十块的人民币设计得再好看，也没有一百块的招人喜欢。

Some things can't be changed by hard work, just like no matter how beautiful the RMB of 50 yuan is, there is no one who likes the RMB of 100 yuan.

[看人性]你的好对别人来说，就像是一颗糖，吃了就沒有了；你的坏对别人来说，就像一道疤痕，留下了就永远存在，这就是人性 。

[look at human nature] to others, your good is like a sugar, which will disappear after eating; to others, your bad is like a scar, which will exist forever after leaving. This is human nature.

如果你丢了一部手机，你的爸妈知道了可能会给你送一部更好的，你会很高兴。如果你的对象跟你分手，但是你爱慕已久的那个人却跟你表白，你一定会不由自主地高兴起来。—— 人们害怕的不是失去，而是害怕失去以后没有更好的可以代替。

If you lose a mobile phone, your parents may send you a better one when they know about it, and you will be very happy. If your partner breaks up with you, but the person you have loved for a long time confesses to you, you will be happy involuntarily. ——What people are afraid of is not losing, but that there is no better one to replace after losing.

一扇不愿意为你开的门，一直敲是不礼貌的

It's impolite to knock on a door that you don't want to open

[说情感]维持一段感情，除了用心和甜言蜜语外，还要努力变得更加优秀。

[emotion] to maintain a relationship, in addition to heart and sweet words, but also strive to become better

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